They say love can make you do some crazy things! If you act crazy, but ONLY for a moment, and no more than VERY few and FAR between, we are only human, and depending on what else, then As long as you check yourself, then who am I to disagree? But if a moment has passed, and you still crazy??? Then, no. That is not love. 1 Corinthians 13 is nicknamed the love chapter for a reason. I can tell you that, lying, yelling, keying a car, hitting, reminding someone they’re not worth a title (or the lack thereof), cheating, busting the windows out someones car, allowing your partner to feel insecure (especially men, save that for another day) stealing, and I think you can get where I am going with this list. Anything that would belong in this theme, is not an action of love. I will say, often times, we learn love from our parents or someone who doesn’t know love, and therefore, we do not know love. Because of that, we will show love in the wrong way.
Now that we know the wrong way, and ways that a lot of us have probably dealt with “love” from someone in our lives, lets talk about the right way. By doing so, I will go over quite a few verses from this chapter. Starting in Vs 2 and 3, he is talking about how he could have wonderful spiritual gifts, and know it all, he could be the best person in the world, be so kind, but without love, nothing even matters. Now the word that is used, is charity, which comes from the word agape, which is good will love, a selfless love. You know now, we use the word charity to describe something we do for others, and it is supposed to be out of kindness, and selflessness, so it’s actually pretty perfect that it is used right here. I have a feeling this may be pretty long, I mean some of this is pretty self explanatory, but other parts, when you ask what does that mean? I can go on and on and on, I am sure! We know that nothing in your life matters if you do not have love, not the money that you make, the job that you have, the family, the house, the car, the clothing, the charity work that you do, it is all meaningless, if you do not have love. So what is love?
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up. And, Pause, Love is long suffering? That doesn’t sound like love! Well, suffering is the ability to endure in giving love, even when we may feel alone, hurt, or frustrated. I cannot tell you how many times I have felt all 3 of those. You are probably also automatically assuming it is always the one you love making you feel that way. That is not always the case. For instance, when I was going to court for my oldest, I may have felt alone, or frustrated, or hurt, but that was because, I was hurt because my daughter is the one hurting from this, I am frustrated, because for some reason, everyone who actually KNOWS what is going on can see it, but not the ones who see it for a day, you can fool someone for day easy, but for how long really? So the point is, sometimes you just hurt for the ones you love, maybe your loved one is ill, and you have to suffer long for them, and the doctors are trying to figure it out, and it is taking longer than expected. Then you do have the one that you love that can hurt you, or make you to feel alone, or frustrate you. And I can tell you I can feel your pain, but you know who else can? Jesus. You think he doesn’t’ know what you have been through? He loved us, and we constantly use and abuse this man, everything I said what love isn’t, we have done to him, and he STILL loved us, with that unconditional love. I have learned that unconditional love, and someday someone other than Jesus will learn it to. Love is kind. Are you kind to the one you love? Love envies not. If you love, are you content with what you have? You should be. It is okay to pray for advancements, and growth so it is okay to want more, but you have to be good and contempt with what you have. Charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, to vaunt is to boast, and puffed up, is proud, are you humble? This could be a whole look at me, look at what I did! Or the case of being to proud to admit you are wrong, or the, you can never look bad. I will tell you this. There are VERY few people who have ever heard me admit to being wrong, and our little secret, some of those times, I do not even believe I am wrong, but, some of the time, it doesn’t even matter, why? Because love. Now a lot of the time I apologize to people, one of my best friends, Q, from the Marine Corps will tell you, It is, “I am sorry you feel hurt by that”, or “I am sorry you took it that way”. LOL. So I really am apologizing for them, not for me, but if the words, “you’re right” come out of my mouth, or, “I apologize I hurt you”, or the not just you’re right, but, “I’m wrong, I’ll take that”, that is humbling, I mean it, this is love. And let me tell you, I am a Leo, I do not admit that, I am a woman, I do not admit that, so for like only 2 people to hear those words out of my mouth, of you do not ever say those words, maybe you really just aren’t wrong, but sometimes you need to just humble yourself for your love, and it’s okay to be the bad guy, it’s okay for your pride to be hurt, it is okay that maybe you were not 100% right. Think about it this way, if the tables were turned, how would you feel? Then you are wrong.
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; This verse is pretty self explanatory. Love, doesn’t act unbecoming, unseemly, I really believe the covered most of the actions on that list I mentioned. Seeketh not her own, not selfish. Are you selfish, or selfless in your relationship with others? Love is not easily provoked. I have to wonder sometimes, am I easily provoked? Because like I have said before, I can be quick to anger, however with that being said, there is 2 verses that come to mind the first one is Jonah 4:9 Doest thou well to be angry? Are you right to be angry, This was asking Jonah if he was right to be angry for the gourd, but take that out, and you ask, are you right to be angry? And if the answer is no, then you do not be angry, if it is yes, then very well proceed. If you lie to me, I am right, if you want something from me without giving me the same thing in return, I am right, if you are in the wrong and I get upset, then I am in the right and that goes for anyone… HOWEVER, THAT DOES NOT MEAN ACT A FOOL!!!!! It also does not mean do it all the time, maybe you need some counseling or something together, with Jesus, or alone, I do not know, but you need to find some peace. The second verse to look at is Ephesians 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: So are you right to be angry? If yes, then be angry, and SIN NOT. Also let not the sun go down upon your wrath. So those of you who go to bed angry, you’re wrong! Hey these are God’s words not mine! Love doesn’t think evil. I will say 90% of the time, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Those other 10%, I probably am still trying to focus on something positive, but if it doesn’t add up, then I probably still am not thinking evil. Once again, I am not perfect. I will not sit there and Just think evil of the person I love, I may ask something I want cleared up, or wonder why things are how they are, but the last thing I will do is think evil of the person I love, why would you even want to think evil of them?
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Do not be glad in the wrongfulness of the actions or character of someone. But be glad in the truth. The word truth comes from the root word aletheia, which is really talking about God’s word. So if one is talking about immoral actions, and the other is really talking about Gods’ word, you can really look at it as, do not rejoice and be glad in someones character of bad qualities, but rejoice in God’s word, and that can give you the answers of how one should be, or prove all things and hold fast to that which is good, I mean, you probably already know, one could go on and on about his word. This is pretty simple.
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. We start with “Beareth all things,” who can bear all things? Beareth comes from the Greek word stego, which means to cover, like the roof on a house. In it as the roof is a form of protection. The roof of a house helps protect you from the elements of the many different seasons. I know a lot of you may not experience all 4 seasons. But here in the Midwest, sometimes we get all 4 seasons in one week! LOL! The purpose of the roof is to protect you from, the hail, the rain, snow, heat, cold, whatever may come. And you have different seasons in your life. So here Love protects you in all things. Next we have, believeth all things, and believe comes from pisteuei, which is the Greek word meaning to put one’s faith or trust in something or someone. Doubt can be a common at times, not all the time, but once again, we are not perfect, but when you come to them, can you take them at their word? Do you trust them with your life? This is a never-ending kind of trusting, believe in the best until the end kind of trusting. For me, this will be the, I let you chose where to sit first out in public, type trusting. I do not let anyone do that. LOL. I let you do that, and I can still have a drink and laugh during dinner, that will be like me trusting in Jesus type trusting, and that has NEVER happened before. I had a friend that had sent this to me a while back and it kind of brought me peace in my time of needing it because, I stayed where I was for so long, knowing everything that I knew, and I just prayed, so I really do understand this. “Please understand this kind of love isn’t stupid, nor is it blind. It sees everything — the good, the bad, and the ugly. But because agape is so filled with faith, it pushes the disconcerting, disturbing, negative realities out-of-the-way. This doesn’t mean agape ignores problems or challenges. It just makes a choice to see beyond the problems and conflicts, to strain forward to see the highest potential that resides in every person.” So to believe in all things, is really believing in the good in the situation, in the people, trusting in God. So do you really believe in the best or are you focused on picking out those 3 flaws that you do not like about a person? Now we move onto Hope all things. You have heard, hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. What if you do not prepare for the worst? At this point in my life, I almost feel like a fool, because I do not prepare for the worst. I am only hoping for the best. Why would I prepare for the worst, when I am hoping in all things for the best? You know I just think about how much pain Jesus must have felt when he was hurt, or is hurt by us everyday, or every sin, or every iniquity, and how much love he has for us still. I am really good at pushing people away until I realize I am doing it. And then I can stop myself. I know I will do it, I know it will happen, and sometimes I want it to. But in all honestly I guess you can say that is preparing for the worst when it comes to love, be hard, hurt them, so they don’t hurt you. That is never a plan, it is like a home security system set in place, and when someone infiltrates the system too deep, the alarm is sounded, and you have to use your safe word, so you can only hope for the best from here on out, and if your heartbreaks, just know that Jesus can comfort you, because he knows your pain. That is agape love. Last but not least you have endureth all things. The word Endureth is actually a compound of two words, you have hupo, meaning under, and meno, meaning abide. Put them together and you have staying under. This isn’t just staying under, this is staying under a heavy load. So this is really more of that unconditional love. That times are tough, but I do not care type of love, that defy the flesh type of love. When you tell someone you love them, and you mean it, this is saying you do not care how hard you are in it to win it.
8 Charity never faileth: It never fades, never becomes obsolete. Everything else in this world will. The beauty of that, is why Christ makes such a perfect picture of charity. He is all of the above. Can you imagine, Loving someone, constantly showing these traits, and they do not wish to show you these back? They can openly admit that their actions do not match up with their words or feelings, and you need to act accordingly, but they will stay a little distant for now, and you need to be okay with that. Jesus did that and continuously does that all the time. If I was only half as perfect as him. I just only have ever wanted someone I can pray and read with. Probably a good indication of why I have always been missing out. lol… If we can’t get to know the God who is love together, then how can we grow in love together? I understand that mankind is flawed, and that is perfectly fine. There is a man named Jesus that can make up for any shortcomings that any man could possibly have, I have learned that, but what I haven’t learned, is why is Jesus not enough for my shortcomings? I mean I know he is, but somehow he seems to not be. I guess a lesson not learned is a lesson repeated.